When things are not working, partnerships are threatened , so if this note hits you when things aren't going too good - don't be afraid . You are definitely not alone .That your partner doesn't see things as you do is normal enough, even it is not nice .and can seem to threaten the most precious thing you share.
Because we can only meet and talk in the street under the Andrew's ascendancy in Victoria, I tested quite a few couples to see how they were responding to the Coronavirus threat ( a clear media presentation)
Results were universally strong ,
The females were deeply concerned about their more rebellious non conforming husbands ,. The husbands while saying less were seething under their breath . All of them long term parties , clearly ,even though they were walking together, were doing it as it were, in truce time . Good friends all.
I was comforted in my protestant state by a rare neighbour who, like myself, had studied microbiology at University and practiced it every year since Thus, while we were rare bods, we had much to share. The fact that no one seemed to be listening to us is also normal enough but in us made the quietr party seethe , Our wives really did listen but were a bit sick of being battered by not only SOSO facts but angst and frustration at their husbands "not being heard" }
Good on you for trying XX's . I too am trying .
The lesson
Find a friend outside your home , and ladies find a friend for your husband outside the home -and because you have probably tried, and its hard to find such men , just feed him, humor him and say "yes dear "more often Remember you are not saying with Yes that' you agree" but "yes I hear you:' .
Women are more likely to side with sentiment and small picture while men seek to have the respect they gain from working , usually in a bigger picture setting and perpective. These roles are not fixed but a normal starting point for our natural capabilities and contributions. ( who knows more in what are aand what info is shared)
Ignorance and arrogance about what we think we know affects both sides too and creates the risk or war even when there is no reason for war.
If you need a laugh , think of all the polys and wannabes who leave the comforts and truths of home to proclaim in parliament : "we know how to change other peoples behavior "
